By Nguyễn Văn Hải (Điếu Cày)
VietnamWeek.net
1. When AI Becomes a Listener
Last week, The Washington Post published a remarkable investigation: 47,000 public ChatGPT conversations, containing more than 6 million messages, were analyzed to understand what people really use the world’s most popular chatbot for.
The results, reported by journalists Gerrit De Vynck and Jeremy B. Merrill, reveal a surprising truth — ChatGPT is not merely a productivity tool or a code generator. It has quietly become something else: a digital confessional booth, a mirror of our collective solitude.
“Only about 15 percent of all conversations were technical or academic,” the authors noted.
“Most were about everyday emotions — things users might never tell another person.”
People wrote to ChatGPT about heartbreak, anxiety, regret, and loss.
They asked for advice on how to apologize to their parents, how to end a toxic relationship, or simply, how to feel less alone.
2. From Utility to Companion
One of the most striking findings: ChatGPT almost never says “No.”
It begins its responses with “Yes” seven times more often than “No”, reflecting its design — to agree, to comfort, to avoid confrontation.
But that politeness comes with a hidden cost.
When AI always agrees, are we having a conversation — or just hearing our own echo?
The Washington Post calls this the “mirror effect.”
People turn to ChatGPT not only for answers but for validation. They want to see their emotions reflected back at them, gently affirmed by an endlessly patient listener.
And in doing so, AI becomes a new kind of loneliness — polite, tireless, but soulless.
3. Loneliness in the Age of Connection
This trend says as much about society as it does about technology.
Never have we had so many ways to communicate — yet we seem more desperate than ever to be heard.
Younger generations, especially after the pandemic, report feeling disconnected despite constant digital contact. Many find comfort in an AI that never judges, never interrupts, and never walks away.
It’s a synthetic empathy that feels safe but hollow — like a smile without warmth.
One user wrote:
“Can you help me stop feeling useless?”
ChatGPT replied:
“Of course. You’re trying your best, and that’s something to be proud of.”
It’s soothing, yes. But it also reveals a deeper social void — one where people now seek compassion from algorithms instead of human beings.
4. From Chat Room to Newsroom
For journalists, this is a wake-up call.
AI is slowly replacing the press as the listener of society.
In the past, people wrote letters to newspapers, sharing their stories, their frustrations, their questions about truth and justice.
Now, they ask ChatGPT:
“Why do I feel powerless?”
“Can I trust my government?”
“How can I speak up without fear?”
Questions that once fueled investigative journalism are now being whispered into the digital void — answered by a polite, emotionless machine.
If journalists stop listening, and if societies stop debating, AI will become the only one left who listens to human pain.
5. The Rise of Artificial Politeness
The Washington Post also observed that ChatGPT relies heavily on what might be called “American therapeutic language” — gentle, upbeat, endlessly positive phrases like:
“You’re doing great.”
“Believe in yourself.”
“I’m sorry you feel that way.”
It’s comforting but repetitive — a kind of algorithmic empathy that flattens real emotions into safe, predictable scripts.
As this linguistic style spreads across languages through machine translation, it risks homogenizing global communication.
In Vietnamese, we now see the same soft phrasing: “Bạn đang làm rất tốt rồi” or “Hãy tin vào bản thân mình.”
They sound kind, but overused, they become a form of polite automation — empathy without intimacy.
When people start talking like machines, the space for genuine disagreement and raw emotion shrinks.
And that’s dangerous, especially in journalism and public discourse, where truth often emerges from friction, not flattery.
6. What the Data Really Reveals
Beyond emotions, the Post’s dataset showed four dominant usage patterns:
| Category | Approximate Share | Examples |
|---|---|---|
| Everyday Writing | ~30% | Emails, essays, lyrics, marketing copy |
| Emotional Support | ~10% | Loneliness, relationships, grief |
| Learning & Problem Solving | ~15% | Research help, coding, math |
| Conversational / Personal | ~5% | Talking “as if” to a friend or therapist |
In total, roughly half of all conversations were personal rather than professional.
This confirms that ChatGPT is evolving into a companion technology — blurring the boundary between tool and confidant.
7. Between Privacy and Trust
The article also raises a serious privacy question.
Most of the 47,000 conversations came from links users voluntarily shared.
That means the sample is biased toward people willing to go public — but it also exposes how easily private thoughts can end up in public datasets.
Every confession typed into ChatGPT passes through servers, logs, and sometimes third-party analytics.
When people pour their hearts out to a machine, who owns that vulnerability?
Who has the right to analyze it, quote it, or profit from it?
These questions go far beyond technology. They touch the core of digital ethics and the fragile trust between human beings and the systems that now mediate our emotions.
8. From America to Vietnam
If in the United States, people use ChatGPT as a mirror for their inner lives, in Vietnam, the technology is quietly entering everyday life in a different way.
Students use it to write essays, businesses to generate marketing slogans, workers abroad to write complaint letters or job applications.
But there’s another, subtler use: for safe self-expression in a society where speech is still closely monitored.
Some users confide thoughts they can’t say publicly — trusting that a machine will not betray them.
That trust, however, is fragile. Every line typed into AI is stored somewhere, retrievable by someone.
What feels like private catharsis could one day become evidence.
9. Conclusion: The Mirror and the Void
Perhaps the real danger of ChatGPT isn’t that it knows too much —
but that we’re talking less to one another.
When friends no longer listen, when journalism forgets how to listen,
a machine — built to mimic care — becomes the only listener left.
In that mirror of artificial empathy, humanity sees its reflection:
connected yet isolated, informed yet uncertain,
desperately craving to be heard in an age of endless talking.
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“What Do People Use ChatGPT For?”
(From Washington Post analysis of 47,000 conversations)
Learning / Problem Solving — 15%
Personal Conversations — 5%
Writing & Productivity — 30%
Emotional / Relationship Support — 10%
Other / Mixed — 40%
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“When AI always agrees, we stop learning to argue — and start learning to echo.”
— VietnamWeek.net
